How does one recover from a major hurtful experience in life? The answer is simple: "any way you can." Postively, safely, and constructively.
Many people would give themselves a face-palm about that kind of answer, and say "It's not that simple."
Then again, maybe it is.
Here is the formula that many people successfully follow:
- Chose and commit. Make effort each and every day at recovery, doing whatever is needed to express, heal, and move forward. Be patient with yourself if you move backward some days, but on better days pick up again and carry on.
- Be active continually. Do anything positive that can keep you busy and your mind away from what troubles you. Let activity be refuge from pain, but do not use activity to hide from responsibility or problem solving. Get plenty of rest when you need to, then keep going.
- Reach out to others. Listen as much as possible to as many people as possible, connect wherever possible. Express your own experience, and help others with theirs. When needed, ask for help. Keep asking until.
The degree this works will depend on one's own determination and persistence. It all amounts to follow through.
